The reality of Christmas for those experiencing domestic abuse
- sophiebarry6
- 24 hours ago
- 3 min read
Our teams know that Christmas is not always season of joy but can be a time of enduring control, fear, and isolation for those living with domestic abuse.
Even after survivors have left an abuser, Christmas can be an emotionally difficult time.
Throughout the year, Domestic abuse remains the country’s most prevalent crime, with police responding to a call every 30 seconds. Instances of domestic abuse increase during Christmas, yet our teams know that people rarely seek help during this period.
How does Christmas affect the rise of domestic abuse?
It’s important to note that the following exacerbate domestic abuse but is not the sole cause, this is still a choice of the abuser.
Financial pressures: Christmas often brings added strain. The pressure to provide presents, food, and create a perfect holiday can amplify stress and tensions in households.
More time at home: With time off work and school, victims are often isolated with their abuser.
Alcohol and substance use: Alcohol consumption tends to spike during Christmas. For some, this can make abusers more unpredictable and volatile.
Expectations of a perfect Christmas: The need to play ‘happy families’ can silence victims, making them want to ensure that Christmas is perfect.
Fewer services available: services have reduced hours and an increased need leading to less capacity in emergency services. When school breaks up for holiday, safeguarding drops off as professionals don’t have eyes on children.
“A victim/survivor is usually a peacekeeper during Christmas; they don’t want to be the cause of trauma for anyone or ruin Christmas. Often, they want to hold it all together and then plan for change after Christmas, even if that’s not what they do in the end.” Ruth Sweeney, Regional Manager at Julian House.
What do we do in our refuges over the festive period to ensure that people are being supported?
Even after survivors have left an abuser, Christmas can be an extremely difficult time.
The individuals in our refuges have often left behind everything they know; homes, relationships - and long-standing routines, to escape abuse. Victims may have endured physical, emotional, sexual, or financial abuse, or coercive control.
Our domestic abuse teams understand these risks and the emotional complexity of leaving an abuser. They know that choosing to leave is never a simple decision, especially during a time such as Christmas.
“All clients are made aware of our support contact timings, out of hours support, themed events, trips and activities. They’re given the contact details of services open over the festive period and any changes to local opening times. Support sessions can be tailored to the sensitivity of the season.” Ruth Sweeney, Regional Manager at Julian House.
Our refuges offer more than just safety.
The staff provide tailored support, helping victims regain control, rebuild confidence, and begin to create the future they choose; for themselves and their families.
With the right care, victims become survivors, equipped to move forward in the New Year with strength and hope.
By making a donation to our Christmas Appeal, you can help someone believe in the possibility of a future free from fear.
Julian House supports men, women and children escaping domestic abuse through safe and secure refuge accommodation where individuals can recover in a non-judgemental, supportive setting.
Find out more about our services and get in touch with our teams if you need any help.